Anal sex

Some women think that there's some sort of cranial defect in men that makes them feel like it's necessary to poke their stick around our anal region. Why do you guys like anal sex so much? Well, it's probably because that section is forbidden as compared to our vaginas (considering our modern sexual mentality). And you feel that because you're violating some sort of unwritten moral code, you have somehow become the Robin Hood of our bodies. So if you're the lucky fella who gets to deflower our back doors, then that makes you our first sort of. And as many men have ceaselessly informed me, it's just so much tighter back there. My goodness, you'd think that you guys were inserting your penises into a train tunnel and not a vagina, the way you make it sound. Although many women have yet to feel comfortable letting you introduce the new and improved "doggy style" to them, many have already begun to delve into the kinky world of anal sex. So what do women hate aboutanal sex, or better yet, what do they love about it? Well gather round, gentlemen, because I'm about to focus in on a somewhat touchy (feely) subject.

Having written the Advanced Cunnilingus Techniques page, and then the Advanced Fellatio Techniques page in response to reader demands, it seems that the next most common question I get is about various forms of anal sex (analingus, actual anal penetration with the penis or fingers). So, in keeping with my tendency to have an opinion on everything and be willing to let everyone know what it is, I have written this page on the subject. Anal activities in sex are less talked about, and make many people feel more than a little uncomfortable. This is mainly because of the taboos about the butt, of course, and not because there's anything wrong with it, per se. In fact, there is a unique form of pleasure to be gotten from anal stimulation, for a guy or girl. For men this is because of the prostate, which is an important sexual organ and can only be directly stimulated through anal contact, and on women it is because the rectum (sorry if you're not looking for technical terms, but I need to be specific) shares a wall with the vagina, and the sexual nerves are actually closer on that side, making the sensation different and sometimes actually stronger.

Anal sex is one of the most taboo forms of sexual play commonly practiced. Long a source of societal shame and discomfort, many people feel the anus is off-limits so it's embarrassing for some people to admit they like having their anus touched or stimulated. But there's really no reason to be embarrassed. Anal play has long been a part of sexual practice for over a third of Americans, including homosexual and heterosexual men and women, both partnered and alone. Most people don't realize that anal intercourse is the least practiced form of anal play; stimulation with fingers, toys and tongues is far more common, partly because the prostate, the rectum and the rim of the anus are all rich sources of nerve endings. Gentle stimulation of these areas can be very pleasurable. Talk to your partner about anal sex and anal play. Find out his or her feelings on the subject. If he or she is adamantly opposed, back off for awhile. Try giving your partner a book on the subject. After he or she is better informed, your partner may be more willing to discuss integrating anal play into your relationship. Approach the subject carefully, and be very aware of your partner's feelings. Many women are embarrassed about anal sex, but have been longing to try it for a long time. Likewise, many men are extremely eager to experiment with this new form of play (as receivers and givers), yet remain convinced their partners would never consider it. Talk to each other about your desires. You may have more in common than you think!