Oral Sex

People have been using their mouths to stimulate each other sexually for about as long as there have been people. How about kissing each other? Men have been kissing women on their necks, ears, breasts, backs, thighs, and any where else they can think of that'll arouse them sexually ever since they found out it works. It didn't take long for some enterprising man to find out that kissing a woman's vulva worked, did it ever. The Latin word cunnilingus was coined to describe licking the vulva. Men were not alone in searching for ways to arouse the opposite sex. Some equally enterprising woman found out that men liked for her to suck their penis, it worked just as well. The Latin word fellatio was coined to describe sucking the penis. Let's define and use the more common words to describe men and women's genitalia and the various sexual acts. Pinus, cock; vulva, pussy; vagina, cunt; Coitus, fuck; cunnilingus, eating pussy; fellatio, sucking cock, blowjob; performing cunnilingus or fellatio, giving head; ejaculate, cum or shoot his load; orgasm, cum or climax; pubic hair, women muff or bush, men bush.

This is for you guys. Most men don't really know what they've been sticking their cock into. Many women also don't appreciate what they have, and can't understand why a man would think that it was beautiful, let alone want to put his face in it. Why would a man like to eat pussy? Most men I know who really love women and want make having sex with them a joint endeavor rather than a conquest, also like to eat pussy. They don't want to just eat her, they want to bring her to a great climax and then build her up for a fuck that neither will forget, or maybe get a good blowjob if that's what she wants to do. I think that there are two basic reasons. First, many men want to give their woman the most sexual satisfaction they can, they enjoy pleasing her and will go to great lengths to do so, the more their woman likes what they are doing to her, the harder their cocks get until sometimes they cum just from eating her. The second is the role that the mouth, tongue, taste and smell play in sex. Why do people kiss? They receive pleasure from the interaction that takes place during a kiss.

You can give head to your woman in just about any position she can get herself into, floating on her back in a swimming pool with her legs around your neck, standing on a picnic table, however, some positions are obviously better than others. Giving good head to your woman on a lazy summer afternoon can take an hour or more if you play it right. That means that you both have to be in comfortable positions to enjoy it, or even endure it. That usually means a lying, sitting or reclining position. She has to be able to spread her legs comfortably and hold them in that position. She should not have to have the weight of your body on her, or hers on you. She also needs to be able to put her hands on your head and pull it against her. You need to be able to make eye contact with her while you are eating her. You have to be able to press your mouth to and your tongue in all of her pussy, including holding it deep in her cunt without getting a crick in your neck. You also have to be able to easily place your hands on her pussy and your fingers in her cunt. The obvious place to start is a bed. She can recline comfortably against some pillows and watch you work. You can lie on your stomach between her legs, however, you'll have to tilt your head too far back to get your tongue in her cunt comfortably. Putting a couple of pillows under her hips to tilt her pelvis up will help with that problem.

For you gals who need instruction... just lie back and enjoy it, it'll grow on you. When he does something you like, tell him. Hold his head gently with your hands and guide him, talk to him, he'll love it. Now for the men. So there you are, staring at it - the mysterious hole from whence you came, and into which you hope to cum again... The key here is to go slow, ask questions, really explore her body. Body language often tells what feels best, but I promise, she'll appreciate your attentiveness if you ask outright. If she seems shy, get her to guide your hands and mouth with her own hands, and pay attention. Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you've got the world's most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she's going to worry about how you like her body. Tell her it's beautiful, tell her which parts you like best, tell her anything, but get her to trust you enough to let you down between her legs. Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during lovemaking. They respond more to verbal love, which means, the more you talk to her, the easier it will be to get her off. So all the time you're petting and stroking her beautiful pussy, talk to her about it. There's nothing more exciting to a woman than to know that her partner finds her delicious. Don't be coy; tell her.

I want to repeat, there's almost nothing you can do with your tongue that won't feel terrific, so relax! I promise, you may be confused and uncertain, but she's in heaven. Any licking and sucking of her lips, cunt, or clit are going to feel just great, and I'd no sooner tell guys to "do it exactly like this" than I would tell every chef to follow the same recipe. But for those who are compelled to RTMF, here are a few techniques that you might like to try:
Play around in the vestibule, try lapping her pussy from her cunt up to her clit, leaving your tongue soft and jaw relaxed. This is a good way to start your tonguing. Run your tongue between the inner and outer lips on one side, while holding the two together with your lips. Good job, now do the other side. Fuck her cunt with your tongue - in and out, around and around, etc. This feels nice. Not wonderful or incredible or earthshaking, nice. Keep your tongue in her cunt for a while, moving the tip around and around and . . . That feels better, now lick up to her clit again and kiss it, watch her shudder. Feel the texture of the tip of her clit with your tongue, notice the taste of it. Spend some time slowly licking your tongue over all of her pussy, savoring the various tastes and textures.

Fingers are valuable adjuncts to eating pussy. Most women masturbate by pressing a finger or fingers over their clit, possibly "thru" the skin of their lips, and vigorously rubbing in a circular or back-and-forth direction. You can do this too, ask her, or better yet, have her show you how she likes it done. You'll never be a good lover until you can bring your woman to climax with your hands. When you fuck her from behind, or really in any position which doesn't allow her to simultaneously rub her clit against your body, reach down or around and rub her clit. I know it's distracting, but just do it anyway. One important point to note: Make sure that your fingers are well lubricated and most of all, your nails cut, I mean cut back to the quick and sanded smooth. The slightest hangnail can be very painful when raked over that tender flesh. There's nothing more uncomfortable (and sometimes downright painful) than a dry finger or hangnail roughly rubbed across one's clit. Of course, that's not all you can do with your fingers. One technique which is very exciting is to spread her lips wide apart with one hand, and with your index finger straight like a pencil, flick the side of it rapidly across her clit. This motion alone will often bring a woman to orgasm. Combining this with the addition of some tongue action elsewhere is nothing short of bliss.

I think variety is crucial. Some guy posted an article detailing a road map of kissing and licking (first here, then here, etc.) Much better to do the unexpected, sometimes a hungry, aggressive approach, other times a laid-back, leisurely one. You can even include your nose, or your chin in the act. Start slowly, that's the key, and let your lover guide the speed of the crescendo, try playing Ravel's Bolero and keep pace with the time and intensity of the music. In all cases, start gently. Roughness and clumsiness are big turnoffs. As she gets more excited, pay more attention to her clit. As she gets closer to orgasm, don't leave her clit for more than a moment or two. It's great to move down to her cunt and then right back to her clit. If you're between her legs with your tongue in her cunt, look at where her clit is, right under your nose. Don't just look at it, use your nose and keep up the stimulation of her clit while you're thrusting your tongue around in her cunt. If you're in the 69 position, then use your chin on her clit while you French kiss her cunt. When she's three breaths away from cumming, moving your mouth off or away from her clit is agony. That's fine if you're intentionally torturing her, just understand that this is what you're doing. The only prohibition is to be reasonably gentle with her clit.

Okay, she's grabbed your head and pressed your face into her muff; she's practically suffocating you, she's screaming and bucking up in the air; you feel her cunt contracting wildly - how long should you keep it up ?? The answer is simple, until she makes you stop. Some women may stop you after five seconds from the start of their climax, others may be able to roll right into another orgasm if you'd just keep going. Do come up for air, but remember, her excitement does not drop off as sharply as yours does. Play it safe by continuing the stimulation. If you're sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the same time, you're giving her far more stimulation than you would be giving her with your cock alone. So you can count on it that she's getting high on this. If there's any doubt, check her out for symptoms. Each woman is unique. You may have one whose nipples get hard when she's excited or only when she's having an orgasm. Your girl might flush red or begin to tremble. Get to know her symptoms and you'll be a more sensitive lover. When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven's sakes, don't let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers are inside, move them a little, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now. If you play your cards right, you'll get some multiple orgasms this way, a woman stays excited for an hour after she's had an orgasm.

I haven't met a lot of men who are completely comfortable going down on a woman when she has her period. But some are. Most women are at their horniest before and sometimes during their period. You should definitely find a way to make her cum when she's bleeding, be it through fucking, manual, or oral stimulation. If you feel comfortable going down on her, great, it's perfectly safe. As you now know, you don't need to get anywhere near her cunt to make her cum. You may suggest that she insert a tampon, and then wash up. Or you could lay down a few old towels, turn out the lights, and forget about menstruation.