The Real Thing

It's hard to separate deep-throating and throat (face) fucking. Throat fucking is simply an extension of deep-throating, so we'll discuss some things together. One of the best positions to practice deep-throating with a real live cock is to kneel in front of him with your head tilted back while he's standing. The most restful position, and the one you should use when you first start, is with him sitting up slightly in bed while you kneel between his legs with your head tilted back.

The size and shape of most cocks is normally not a problem for deep-throating, you can guide it with your hands if you have to and can normally relax enough to handle some pretty big ones, but it's a different matter for throat fucking. A big cock can be a curse. As we discussed in the last anatomy lesson, if it's much over one and three quarter inches in diameter it's going to take some lady to let him fuck her throat with that. Anything much over one and a half inches can present difficulties for the average woman. If it's seven inches or more in length, watch out, he could injure the lower end of your throat and your esophagus since a cock won't fit into your esophagus and he'll have a tendency to bottom it.

Although curved ones can be fun to play with, the curve of his cock can sometimes present a problem. When you were examining his cock, which way was it curved? Lay him on his back and work up a good hard-on for him. Which way is it pointing? Most guys' cocks will curve slightly up toward their head or point straight to the ceiling. If his does then he'll probably be able to slide it home without any problems. A nice curve in the upward direction can be a perfect fit for man on top 69, now that I think of it, it fits nicely in my cunt too. It's the downward curve that's a problem. If it curves down very much, he may not be able to throat fuck in the 69 position as his cock will tend to bend instead of sliding in. You would have to guide it in with your hands on each stroke. It would be fine though if you were kneeling in front of him where he could hold your head with his hands and fuck away.

Let's get on with deep-throating. By now, with your practice with the dildo, you should be able to slide your mouth and throat down over his cock until your lips are buried in his bush without getting the urge to gag and work it around in the bottom of your throat for as long as you can hold your breath. If you can breathe with it in your throat, you should be able to slide your throat up and down on his cock until you simply get tired of doing it or he cums or something.

You'll have to polish up on timing your breathing since you'll have to interact with a man now. Just as with the dildo, you may be able to breathe some with his cock down into your throat, but maybe not all the way in, . . . if only I could. It'd be wonderful just to lie there with my mouth and throat full of that luscious cock, working it around, picking at his balls and bush with my lips . . . oh well. If you're kneeling over him or in front of him then it's easy to time as you have complete control, remember, you're sliding your throat over his cock, he's not thrusting his cock into your throat.

If he's in a position where he can thrust his cock into your throat, establish some signals for each other. The simplest ones are for you to place your hands on his hips and, in effect, pull his cock into and push it out of your mouth. Since you're just starting to learn to deep-throat, choose a position where you have complete control, him sitting up slightly in bed with you kneeling between his legs is a good one. Now, suck his cock about halfway into your mouth and hold it there, working on it a little, while you relax and find the most comfortable way to continue. When you're relaxed, start slowly taking it in further. Just as it begins to block your breathing, stop and relax again. When you're ready, take a deep breath through your nose and hold it. Now, slowly slide your mouth and then your throat on down over his cock, use your lungs to inhale its head "around the corner" if you need to but try to push your throat over it first. Once its head has popped into your throat, your throat will simply slide on down over his cock, be careful and don't bump your nose on his pelvic bone. Unless his cock is really big, it'll go into your throat easier than the dildo. Also, it won't irritate the back of your throat. If it's big enough, you won't have to use your tongue or hold your nose to inhale it into your throat.

Sticking your tongue out between your teeth and his cock to get the back of it down out of the way is the key to pushing the entrance to your throat over his cock without inhaling it, If everything is going your way, you'll be able to push it around the corner and bury your face in his bush in one smooth motion without having to inhale it. It'll make deep-throating, especially throat fucking, more enjoyable if his cock will simply slide all the way in, from your teeth to the bottom of your throat, in one smooth stroke. There'll probably always be a slight hesitation as his cock pops around the corner and starts down into your throat, but that tends to feel good anyway. You'll probably find him playing around back there, rubbing his coronal ridge back and forth through that restriction into your throat.

How far in is all the way in? As your lips get near his groin, you may find his balls getting in the way. The front of his scrotum is attached to the bottom of his cock, a little way out from his body. How far out depends on the man. To really get his cock all the way in with your face buried in his bush and your lips pressed against his groin, you may have to take some of his scrotum into your mouth along with it. His balls hang loose inside the scrotum so you can slide your mouth on down over the front part of his scrotum leaving his balls outside, you may not even notice it. When you are just stroking your throat back and forth over his cock and his orgasm hasn't started yet or you are not really hot yet, you probably don't want to take in much of his scrotum. Save the full thrusts for those times when he is cumming or you really want to feel all of it in you with your mouth and face pressed tight against his groin or just want to play around. All the way in is when his cock is tilted down slightly to get it away from his pelvic bone and your lips are pressed tightly between his groin and your teeth.
Once his cock is all the way in, hold it there, you want to get used to the sexuality of having all of it in you. Let your passions rise, feel your nipples harden and the juices start to flow in your cunt as you get caught up in the intimacy of giving head. Did you know you could smile with a mouth full of cock? When it starts to feel good, look up at him and try it, it'll show in your eyes and cheeks and the corners of your mouth. When you need to exhale, slide your throat back up off his cock, quickly exhaling and inhaling just as it clears, then slide all the way back down over his cock again and stop. Keep repeating the cycle, pausing at the bottom of his cock each time. As you begin to enjoy it and really get into the rhythm, start to play around with his cock while you're down at the root of it. Move your head back and forth and around and around, working your throat over the head of his cock. Feel that luscious cock pulsing and throbbing as you work it around in your mouth and throat. These are the basics of deep-throating, remember, practice makes perfect so don't forget to do your homework.

Now that you've mastered deep-throating, you need to carefully consider whether or not you want to get into throat fucking. It's not for everyone, and it's not the same as deep-throating. Deep-throating is you sliding your throat down over his cock when the urge strikes you during, or as a finishing touch to, good head. When a man wants you to give him head, he's in a passive mood. He wants to lie back and enjoy it to the fullest and looks forward with eager anticipation to those times when you bury your face in his bush. Throat fucking is allowing a man to take charge and thrust his cock in and out of your throat in a way that's pleasing to both of you. Although the motions are similar, it's not the same as fucking your cunt. All too often, throat fucking ends up allowing a man to take control and use your throat for a vagina, which I don't particularly care for. I've got a perfectly good cunt that I like to use for that. If a man isn't interested in the subtleties of throat fucking and just wants to treat your throat like a cunt, he's liable to be in an aggressive mood and wants to shove his cock into something new. Let him find someone else to abuse.

But then life is full of apparent contradictions. Sometimes I want my lover to really fuck my throat. I want long quick thrusts of his cock deep into my throat with his groin coming up against my face each time he shoves his cock into me. I do dearly love man on top 69 with my lover, whom I trust completely. Thrusting his throbbing cock in and out of my throat with long deep strokes at one end while he's passionately eating my pussy out at the other end. Sometimes, when his cock thrusts into my throat and tongue thrusts into my cunt are together, it feels like they are going to meet somewhere in the middle of my body. At times like that I completely surrender myself to him, becoming caught up in pure passion, my face and pussy rising to meet each stroke. But this isn't really a contradiction, it's an example of mutual trust and respect for each other. He knows how hard to thrust. He's not just using me for his sexual satisfaction, he's satisfying my sexual desires of the moment. He's deriving his pleasure as much through providing me with great sexual pleasure as he is by satisfying his own sexual desires.

When you deep-throat a man, you suck his cock into your mouth and slide your throat down over it in a way that excites him and is also comfortable and pleasurable to you. When you engage in throat fucking, you let him thrust his cock into your mouth and down into your throat in a way that's pleasurable to him and still acceptable and pleasurable to you. The two activities are not the same. It's not enough that you learn how to accept his cock during throat fucking. He has to learn how to control and direct his cock also. If you don't trust him completely, simply don't let him get on top of you and fuck your throat! Until you build up this trust, you'll never be able to relax enough to let him thrust his cock down into your throat in a way that gives you any pleasure. It will also take a significant amount of practice for him to develop a smooth straight thrust, especially if you move your head while he's thrusting. Until the two of you learn to synchronize your movements, expect to see a lot of bent cocks. It's not that stiff and if it's not pushed in straight it'll bend, don't worry, it'll straighten out. He also has to learn to control the intensity of his thrusts, how he pushes his cock around the corner, how hard he brings his groin up against your face.

Remember how a man responds during his climax when he's fucking you, it's his nature to thrust his cock into your cunt deep and hard, especially as he near his climax. There's nothing wrong with this, he needs to get his sperm near your uterus to fertilize your egg. Most women like it and urge the man on, raising their cunts to meet his thrusts. The pelvic area of both is designed for this and it doesn't hurt either. However, your face and throat are not designed for this. Hard thrusts can bruise your lips and nose and injure the back of your throat.
Before you start practicing throat fucking, you'll have to decide what position you want to be in. When he's fucking your throat, you have to hold your head still and push against him as he pushes his cock into your throat and that can be tiring. He can stand with you kneeling in front of him with your head tilted back, this gives you the most control since you can use your hands to push his hips back and pull your head back. However, unless you can lean forward enough, he may have to hold your head with his hands to help you push against him so that he can thrust his cock down into your throat without tiring you, but that can be sensual for both of you. 69 is probably not the best one to start with, but it may be the best with him on top when both of you are comfortable with throat fucking. One problem with throat fucking in the 69 position is that he has a hard time keeping his mind on fucking you and sucking you at the same time. Don't worry about his problems though, just lie there and enjoy being eaten and fucked at the same time.

Lying on the bed with your head tilted sharply back over the edge is comfortable for you. It lines up your mouth and throat and his cock better than other positions and provides support for your head so you don't have to push back against his thrusts. He can straddle your face and easily slide his cock all the way in, but it's a little harder for you to control the thrusts of his cock since you won't be able to pull your head back. However, once you really get into it in this position, you can grab his butt and pull his groin up against your lips and just lie there for a while enjoying his balls on your nose, his bush tickling your chin and his cock deep in your throat, don't forget to breathe though. This position, which is similar to 69, in addition to being very erotic to the man visually and psychologically, also feels nice to him as the bottom of his coronal ridge rubs against the back of your throat as he strokes it in and out.

Once you're ready for him, close your lips around his cock and let him push it about half way into your mouth. You'll probably be nervous now so play around with it some and relax. When you're relaxed, signal him to start. Now he begins to slowly slide his cock deeper and deeper into your mouth. As the head of his cock nears the entrance to your throat, signal him to stop. Rest in this position, playing with his cock with your tongue until you are relaxed and ready for him to shove it home. Then, taking a deep breath, flatten your tongue out under his cock and signal him to slide it slowly on down into your throat. Inhale it around the corner if you have to, but try to let him push it around and then on down deeper and deeper until he's got the whole thing buried in you. Although the feel of his cock in your throat will be the same, the sensations of him thrusting it into your throat will be far different from those you experienced when you were sliding your throat down over it, it really turns me on.

Hold him against your face until you need to take a breath, then signal him to withdraw his cock far enough for you to breathe freely. Let him hold it there while you breathe normally and relax again. Then, take a deep breath signaling him to slide his cock back down to the bottom of your throat and hold it there until you need to take a breath. Keep doing this until he can sense when needs to pull his cock out for you to exhale and when you've filled your lungs and are ready for another stroke, gradually increasing the nature and speed of his stroke from a slide to a thrust until you begin to feel uncomfortable with it. Then let him pull it up out of your throat and almost all the way out of your mouth and then thrust it right back in without pausing, stroking its head from your teeth to the bottom of your throat in one motion. Use the time between when his cock clears your throat on the way out and before it starts back into your throat again to quickly exhale and inhale. Let him increase the speed of his thrusts until it interferes with your breathing. Once you're comfortable with him stroking his cock back and forth between your teeth and the bottom of your throat, take a deep breath and let him use short quick strokes just popping the head of his cock in and out of your throat until you need to breathe. Take another deep breath and let him make short fast strokes deep in your throat with his groin gently bumping your lips until you need to breathe.

Increase the length of his strokes again until the head of his cock is stroking from your lips to the bottom of your throat with his groin gently bumping against your lips. Let him learn to pull his cock out of your throat slowly and smoothly enough to keep it from coming out of your mouth and find out how fast and hard he can thrust his cock back into your throat without it either becoming unpleasant or too fast for you to breathe. If you'd like him to thrust it in faster but need more time to breathe, then slow his withdrawal stroke. That's throat fucking. Keep changing the length and speed of his strokes, how far his cock goes into your throat, how far it comes out into your mouth. Find out which strokes feel best to you, after all, you're the one being fucked and you should enjoy it too.

If you find that you're breathing too much and hyperventilating, or you're really into it and want to speed up his strokes even more, turn that Bolero tape back on and change your breathing pattern, inhale just before his cock enters your throat at the beginning of one stroke, exhale just as it leaves your throat at the end of that stroke and take it right back in on the next stroke with your lungs empty, inhale just as it clears your throat at the end of that stroke and take it right back in with your lungs full. I've known people who used a metronome to keep her breathing and his strokes synchronized. Continue repeating this cycle as long as it feels good or you get tired or he cums or something. It's not hard to learn and soon becomes second nature.

It's important that he know that he must always take reasonably slow, steady, even strokes, especially while he cums. You have to guide him when you want, or are willing to accept, faster harder strokes. He must start slowly, especially if this is a completely new experience for the two of you. His only other requirement during this exercise is to keep the motion of his cock straight and lined up with your throat.

One more word of caution concerning throat fucking.

Don't let him get carried away when he starts to cum. He'll have the urge to thrust his cock all the way down into your stomach, but that urge to thrust has to be controlled. The most important lesson of this exercise is, keep it under control! As the two of you gain confidence in each other through practice, you can let him step up the pace and intensity of his strokes as he nears his climax. When he's fucking you and getting near his climax, you bring your cunt up to meet his thrusts. You can do the same thing with your throat, respond to his climax by meeting his thrusts with your throat. Bring your face firmly up against his groin, not hard enough to bruise your lips, just firmly enough for both of you to know that he's got all of it in you. Use your hands on his hips to pull his cock into you to find out how hard he should thrust.

At least in the beginning, keep your hands on his hips while you're throat fucking so you can guide his strokes and control where his cock is when he cums. If you don't want to take his cum into your mouth, and can hold your breath and relax your throat long enough to keep his cock deep in your throat while he cums, you'll not be faced with the problem of tasting or swallowing his cum. His cum will shoot right on down into your stomach. If he's fucking your throat, he'll probably want to keep his cock all the way in, using short quick strokes at the bottom of your throat as he shoots his load down into your stomach, it's that desire to plant his seed deep.
You must relax completely to enjoy his short hard strokes with his cock all the way down in your throat and he has to be careful not to bruise your lips. To do this long enough for him to completely get it off requires more than a few days practice. With time and practice you'll become more comfortable with what you are doing. The ability to relax will come with the comfort, this is work? Since you've already practiced it, you'll be able to take him completely down your throat, but may not be able to maintain proper relaxation and hold your breath long enough for him to shoot his load.

Each time you practice you'll be able to hold him in longer. It'll help if you learn to get him almost to the point of cumming and then take an extra deep breath before he starts those final short thrusts at the bottom of your throat. Remember that you don't want to be inhaling while he's shooting cum down your throat. The only way you'll find out if you can hold your breath with his cock deep in you long enough for him to shoot it all is to try. If you try and he's started to cum but it's going to take too long for him to finish, just push his cock back out of your throat into your mouth quickly, swallow, take a breath and let him finish. Keep practicing this until you know your limits and how to deal with them.

It won't hurt you if he does cum in your throat, or if some of his cum runs down your throat while he's shooting his load. It's no different from swallowing a thick syrup. When you swallow, the entrance to your larynx is closed off and the liquid goes down your esophagus to your stomach, it'll also close when his cock slides past it. With practice, you can close it your self anytime you want to, try closing it while you're exhaling through your mouth. The only time you'll have a problem is if you try to inhale while his cum is running, or being shot out of a thrusting cock, past your larynx. Even then, it'll only be unpleasant, no worse than choking on a swallow of water. It's important that you learn to deal with this potential problem because you don't want to interfere with the natural flow of events when you're both enjoying his climax. The key is in your breathing. You can let him cum with his cock anywhere in your mouth or throat, including stroking it in and out of or up and down in your throat. He can even shoot his load down into your throat with his cock at the entrance, just don't inhale while his cum is running past the entrance to your larynx, swallow first and then inhale.

Whether you're deep-throating him or he's fucking your throat, don't be too mechanical about it. Once you get used to that luscious cock filling your mouth and throat with his belly pressing against your face, a few short quick strokes gently bumping his groin against your mouth, maybe with a little wiggle or two, can feel great to both of you. When the two of you become familiar with each others desires, you can add more pleasure by using your hands on each other. It will feel great to him when you grab his butt and press his belly tight against your face, rubbing your nose around in his bush. It can also feel great to you for him to place his hands on your head and gently press your face against him, it's a psychological thing, sort of like firm hugs when you're fucking. Don't forget, you can pull him tight against your mouth and hold him there any time you want to. It's psychological, for him and for you.

Every so often, take an extra deep breath, grab his butt, pull him all the way into you and hold him there. Play around with his cock, work it around in your mouth and throat, rub your face over his groin, play with his balls. Let him hold your head with his hands while he strokes his cock in and out in quick short gentle little strokes keeping it deep in your throat, bumping his groin against your lips. Let him try those same short strokes with the head of his cock moving in and out of the entrance to your throat. Let him hold your face tight against him while he works his cock around and around in your mouth and throat. Learn what feels best for each other. If you both understand what it is that you're trying to do, as well as the possible problems that may come up along the way, you'll never regret having learned to deep-throat.

Hopefully he'll understand that any initial difficulties are not a rejection of him or of what he's offering you and that all you need is practice. Not everyone will be able to accomplish all of the deep-throat techniques, but it's my sincere desire that you not stop trying and think that your blowjobs are unacceptable. If a man isn't satisfied just to have his cock in your mouth, then you probably don't want to have his cock in you anywhere.

One of life's more pleasant things for me is to rest between orgasms during side-by-side 69 with our heads on each others thighs. This is restful for both and you can play with and be played with for hours in this position. After he cums, let his cock really go down while he's resting, then quickly suck all of it into your mouth, I mean all the way up to his balls. I wonder if I could get his nuts in too? I could hold them in my cheeks like a chipmunk. Na, the whole works might get stuck in there and I'd be embarrassed to call 911 in that position.

Then keep sucking on it and working on it with your tongue and mouth until he starts to get a hard-on again, it won't take long. Grab his butt and hold his groin tight against your mouth while that luscious throbbing cock swells to full size. It's that psychological thing again, it feels wonderful as his cock slowly fills your mouth and grows down into your throat.

Continue to practice deep-throating, you don't have to deep-throat on every stroke, or even every time you give head. You can give great head with just the head of his cock in your mouth and he'll love it, but it sure feels good to him when you put your face in his bush, sort of like how you feel when he leaves your clit and thrusts his tongue deep in your cunt. I know couples who have devoted ten months to this lesson and never regretted a minute of it. Continue because each time you practice you'll be able to take his cock deeper into your throat and hold it there longer. If you believe, as I do, "the deeper the better" and if you have the desire to both give and get the most out of giving head, you'll get this one down pat!