Masturbation: An Overview

Masturbation is a wonderful way to receive sexual pleasure or release sexual energy or tension. You can do it anytime and anywhere. It’s all about you, so you’ll never be turned down! It’s a very natural activity that we all have a right, as a human being, to do.

Screw Popular Belief It is unfortunate that the popular belief about masturbation is that it’s an immature activity or a second rate substitute for partner sex. It’s also unfortunate that as a society, we are encouraged not to talk about it. When we were babies and we touched our genitals what happened? Our parents yelled to us, "Don’t do that!" And the first time we tried masturbating, we had to do it totally on the sly, because it felt so good, but was so wrong to do. If only parents could speak more openly about masturbation, stressing that it isn’t wrong, but that it is something that one should do in private. So now we all grow up to believe that it’s this taboo thing that only losers and freaks of nature partake in, resulting in depriving ourselves of what could be the ultimate pleasure. And I hope that after reading this overview of such a wonderful activity, you will also believe that those theories and beliefs are nothing but pure crap!

YES! You’re still with Me! Since you’re still reading, I’ll take that as you want to know why masturbation is so good for so many reasons. So here we go!

By masturbating, we learn what type of stimulation feels good to us. This is important information to know when engaging in sexual play with a partner. If you don’t know how and where you like to be touched, how will you be able to communicate that to your partner. There’s enough anxiety and stress involved with pleasing a partner or lover, you should be able to adequately communicate this to your partner and vise versa. Then everyone will benefit from the experience. You’ll get great sexual pleasure from your lover and your lover will take comfort in knowing that he/she is doing what you like and you’re well satisfied by him/her.

When masturbating, you can go as slow or as fast as you’d like. You can tease yourself for hours before climaxing or you can do it and get it done in just a few minutes and move on with your day. There’s no pressure on whether you’re doing a good job, you’re pleasing yourself. And if it doesn’t feel that good in the beginning, you can try as many different things as you like.

Masturbation is having sex. You don’t have to be with a partner just to have sex. Anything that gives you sexual pleasure is sex. Don’t allow all the negative talk of masturbation turn you away.

And masturbation will not make you not want to have sex with your lover. It’s not an either or thing. You may love to masturbate, but there’s nothing like sharing your love and your body with another human being. Get the best of both worlds, don’t choose!

Masturbation has some health attributes to it as well. It relieves stress, tension and menstrual cramps, releases endorphins, fights yeast infections by increasing blood flow to the pelvis, exercises and flushes the prostate gland, strengthens pelvic muscles, is a good cardiovascular workout, burns calories, gives you sexual self confidence which boosts self esteem and allows you to remain sexually active throughout your entire life. Masturbation is great way for pregnant women and people with physical limitations to enjoy sex.

If you’ve never had an orgasm before, many sex therapists prescribe regular masturbation. Usually an hour a day for several weeks is all it takes. And basically your goal is to relax, to free yourself from all your worries and distractions and pay attention to yourself and your own pleasure. They say even if you don’t touch your genitals in the beginning that’s fine, just relax yourself enough to be able to do that.

And, this has to be the number one reason, Masturbation is the safest sex next to abstinence. And it’s more fun too. You don’t have to worry about catching any STD’s because it’s your own bodily fluids, so use as many toys and fingers as you’d like and go back and forth among them all.

So see, there’s no reason not to masturbate. In fact a study by the Kinsey Institute on masturbation revealed that 94% of men masturbate and 74% of women masturbate. So see, if you’re not in that statistic, you’re missing out.

Here’s some myths about masturbation

Masturbation is addictive. No, there’s no right amount of times to masturbate. You can do it as much as you’d like, as long as it doesn’t interfere in your life in a negative way.

It’s wrong to receive such pleasure. This is very unfortunate and untrue. Everyone deserves to have some pleasures in life. It’s not wrong to indulge. It doesn’t mean you won’t want your partner anymore and it definitely doesn’t mean that your partner isn’t pleasing you properly.

Masturbation is dangerous. No, no, no. Just use common sense. Don’t do anything that may cause harm to yourself. And as far as having heart disease and having a heart attack; the Journal of American Medical Association reports that men have more of chance of having a heart attack after waking up, exerting themselves, or getting angry. But after sex, it’s very unlikely. If you can go for walks and exercise, you can masturbate.

So that’s it! I hope that I’ve convinced you to at least give it a try, if you haven’t yet indulged. And if you do try it and love it, let me know about it. It helps me to know that I’m bringing some pleasure into the lives of my readers. If you want to try and don’t know where to begin, than have a look a my other articles on masturbation. They go into a little more detail about how to get started.

Male Masturbation Techniques

Most men masturbate or have masturbated at some time in their lives. All you need is the right mood, some xxx movies or magazines, a fantasy of something or someone you’d like to be with or a past event that really gets you hot. There are no rules to follow, but for those of you who wonder what can be done to pleasure yourself, here are some ideas. This article can also help out those women who are unsure of how to stimulate the penis, so read on and see how men would do it to themselves. These are some tried and true methods to get yourself or your man all worked up.

The penis can be very frightening to some, but it really is very fun to play with. Stroking is the most popular way to stimulate the penis. Grab on with a or both hands and stroke up and down. You can use different types of pressure to find out what feels great. Some men like to be squeezed tight and others like it real soft. Some men like it fast and others like it slow and steady. You can stroke just the shaft or caress the head of the penis too. The head of the penis is very sensitive, so sometimes once a man gets close to climaxing or is climaxing the head of the penis is too sensitive to touch.

Different textures and fabric can bring about different sensations to the penis. You can use these different textures while stroking or you can rub up against them. A nice smooth satin, cotton or even velvet can feel quite pleasing.

You see it all the time in xxx movies and to be honest, I thought it was just a porn star thing, is the man slapping his penis up against something. This does actually bring pleasure. Slap it up against your pillow, stomach or even between your hands.

There are many toys out there for men to get some thrusting action from. There are many different toys made by adult toy manufacturers that are specifically made to feel as close to the real deal as you can get. Molded vaginas, anuses and mouths made from latex, cyber skin, jelly rubber, and jelly silicone. Some of them even vibrate or have suction for added stimulation. They even have on the market now the upper torso: breasts, chin and mouth. It’s all one unit so you can thrust between the breasts and have the added bonus of a blow job. The unit is actually quite small for what it is.

If you really like suction, there are also toys out there that do just that. Most of these toys look like little machines, but hey, if it’s what you like then you want a penis pump. Penis pumps basically create a vacuum around the penis, pulling in blood to temporarily enlarge it. Although, do be careful with these and follow the instructions. Pumping too long can cause problems.

Stimulating the prostate or anus can be very pleasing. You can do this with your fingers or a toy. And you can do it internally or externally. Just be sure that if you plan to do it internally, make sure that whatever you’re inserting has a flared base at one end, so it doesn’t get pulled in. Or you can just massage the area between your scrotum and anus. Putting a little pressure on this area or a very gentle vibrator to this area can be wonderfully added stimulation.

Important things to keep in mind when masturbating:

Never insert your penis into anything you may not get it out of

Although it’s fun to masturbate in the shower, soap is not a very good lubricant because it could get into your urethral track and cause pain and/or irritation

Always use a good amount of lubrication, no matter what you’re doing to your penis. And since it’s just you, you can use whatever form you like, without worrying about destroying a condom or other latex barrier. A penis rubbed raw can be extremely painful. Especially with any toys, most of these products need a lot of lubrication in order to get the best sensation from it.

These are just some of the many ways that men can satisfy themselves. There is no right or wrong way, combine some or all of these methods. Do what you like, just make sure that what you’re doing is safe.

Remember masturbation is our birthright as a living breathing creature, so don’t be afraid or ashamed to do it!

Tips on Masturbating for Females

Now, as I have said before, there is no right or wrong way to masturbate. As long as it feels good and you aren’t going to harm yourself, it’s okay. Pleasure is the goal and however you get there is perfect. So this article is written mostly for the women out there who are curious about masturbating, but just don’t know where to begin.

First of all, set up a comfortable environment for yourself. If you’re going to use toys, get them and your lube out and near the play area. Read an erotic book or watch an erotic movie. Think of a past sexual encounter that really gets you hot, or fantasize about one you’d like to have. Whatever gets you in the mood will help you do it.

Here are some different areas to stimulate when masturbating.

Clitoral Stimulation You can use your hands, fingers, knuckles, a shower head, running water, vibrators, rubbing up against an object, anything that will stimulate the clitoris. The clitoris is the one organ on our bodies that is purely for sexual pleasure. It is the spot. Women are very excited by stimulation of the gspot, but some women are unable to orgasm unless they receive some sort of clitoral stimulation. And some women can not receive any clitoral stimulation until she is well aroused, because it is so sensitive. And then others just find clitoral stimulation irritating. And there are many ways to stimulate the clitoris.

By using your fingers or hand, you can rub, stroke or pinch the actual clitoris. You can also rub the area around the clitoris. One good move that I like to do is grab the skin around the clit and rub it together. This kind of indirectly stimulates the clit. The clit is kind of like a small penis, although much more sensitive. So you can grab it and stroke it, just like you would a penis.

The all important shower massager head can be wonderful too. The shower head where you can adjust the stream of water, a steady, gentle stream and then a more powerful jet spray can be quite exciting. In fact, I’m getting excited just thinking about it. Just be careful to not send strong streams of water into the vagina for a very long period of time because it can cause air embolism.

Vibrators are my favorite. I have several different ones for different days and different moods. Holding a vibrator up against your clit is the way to feel the maximum amount of vibrations. But since clits can be extremely sensitive to that, you can also hold the vibrator around the general area. If the vibrations are too strong, just put a towel or washcloth between you and the vibrator/massager and that will lessen the intensity as well.

G-Spot Stimulation There are many toys out there that are specifically made to locate and stimulate the g-spot. By using some type of dildo, you will also get that added feeling of fullness in your vagina, which kind of completes the whole experience. Although, if you can locate your g-spot and can manipulate it and stimulate it with your fingers to your pleasure, then all the better. Many women do find it easier to use some kind of toy.

Anal Stimulation The anus is a very sensitive area of the body. It holds a lot of tension and can be associated with a lot of misery, but when given a little bit of TLC (tender loving care), it can bring you to a wonderful place. You can explore the area with your fingers, just rubbing or tickling the area, or small insert able anal toys. There are many to choose from, just make sure that whenever you insert a toy, finger, etc. into your anus that you have plenty of lubrication and make sure whatever toy you use has a flared base on one end of it!

Vaginal Stimulation And last but not least, there’s always just pure penetration for the feeling of penetration. There are an absolute butt load of dildo’s and vibrating dildos on the market. These are great for the times when you don’t want anything fancy, but still want some pleasure. These dildos come with no fancy attachments, it’s just a dildo to penetrate yourself with. And if your fingers or hands feel good too, than go for it!

Breasts Let’s not forget about them. Touching, rubbing and fondling the breasts and nipples is very exciting. If you’re breasts are large enough, try licking your nipples yourself. This can be extremely pleasurable. The breasts are a wonderful erogenous zone that should not be ignored during any type of sex play.

There is no right way to do it. You don’t even have to get naked. Just relax and explore your body and see what feels good. Anyway you do it is your choice, just have fun. That’s the point of sex and sexual play, having fun doing it.