Kaip patirti analinį orgazmą

Getting Ready

To achieve an anal orgasm, you (or a partner) are going to have to “go there.” If you have hesitations about backdoor play, whether it’s because of hygiene concerns (yes, it can get messy), safety concerns (we’ll discuss this in more detail shortly) or long-standing taboos, you won’t have the right mental attitude to enjoy the activity and reach climax. Before getting started make sure you’re ready, and if a partner is involved, be sure that they have legitimate interest in trying anal sex as well.

Important: always take your time, and always use lube. Lots of it. Some companies even sell lube specially designed for anal use; even though that may seem like a sales gimmick, remember that the anus doesn’t create its own lubrication like the vagina does, so extra-slippery lube – and a lot more than you’re accustomed to using for vaginal penetration – can be your friend if an anal orgasm is your goal.

Start small, too. Before trying penetration with a penis, a strap-on dildo or an anal massager, try using a finger to explore. In fact, you don’t have to start on the inside. Running a finger or a tongue (the latter is called rimming) around the outside can help relax the muscles while building excitement. There are lots of nerve endings just outside, and just inside, the anal opening. They’ll appreciate the attention.

Once you’re ready for penetrative sex you don’t have to go big, either. Fingers and tongues are good, as are butt plugs or anal beads, for anal exploration which can accomplish four things.

First, you’ll get more comfortable with the sensation of anal penetration. Just as importantly, you can start to discover which regions of the anus are most sensitive and most pleasurable. Third, just as with any type of sexual play, stimulating anal erogenous zones will help get the juices flowing (figuratively and not literally, since the anus doesn’t self-lubricate). Finally, fingers are long enough to reach the sweet spot adjacent to the g-spot, if you get lucky enough to find it.

Remember that not all butts are the same; like vulvas and penises they respond differently to different types of stimulation. Exploration and discovery can be half the fun, as you work your way toward achieving an anal climax.

Reaching Orgasm

For Vulva-Havers

Sex experts say that it may be easier to reach anal orgasm if you have your “normal” type of orgasm first. In other words, a climax reached by clitoral stimulation, vaginal stimulation (or both) will relax all of your muscles, including the anal ones, and increase the pleasure you’re able to experience from behind.

Discovering the “magic spot” that will work best for an anal orgasm can take some time in vulva owners. The most likely area to produce a climax is a few inches into the anus, adjacent to the G-spot or the A-spot where the vaginal and anal walls meet. One good way to navigate is to aim toward the belly button – and to be patient. Vary the depth and pressure of penetration, the type of movement, and over time you’ll lock in on what’s best for you. If you’re still not quite there, a vibrating massager can work wonders.

Some sex positions are more conducive than others if you’re playing with a partner; once again, experimentation is the key. The best choices are often face-down, doggy-style or riding on top because they make it easiest for a partner to aim the right way.

The latter two have the added advantage of allowing for clitoral or vaginal stimulation (or play with other erogenous zones) at the same time. As you might expect, the only thing that feels better than an anal orgasm is a blended orgasm that includes an anal climax.

For Prostate-Havers

The P-spot is located about two-to-four inches inside the anus, and can be reached with the fingers (remember the lube!). Explore for the particularly sensitive area which often feels round and hard, almost like a marble. If you need some general direction, the prostate can usually be found by aiming for the base of the penis. Curve the index finger in a “come here” motion and massage the area firmly – it shouldn’t take long to reach pay dirt (pardon the pun).

Helpful Tips

1. Be comfortable and make sure your partner is, too. We’ve already mentioned this, but can’t stress it enough. It’s true that having a discussion about anal sex and orgasms with a partner may be a bit awkward at first, but it beats outright rejection – or worse.
2. We can’t stress this one enough either: lube, lube and more lube. You’ll thank us later.
3. Empty your bowels and make sure you’re clean before getting down to business. Some people douche ahead of time, but it doesn’t really help unless you know how to do it properly.
4. If you or a partner are still anxious about cleanliness, try anal sex in the shower or bath. It feels cleaner and warm water can relax the muscles. Just be aware that the water will also wash away some of the lube, so have plenty more on hand.
5. Using sterile gloves for penetration can also help ease concerns about cleanliness. Condoms (for penises or toys) are also an excellent idea – some would say a required precaution – for penetration.
6. Erogenous zone play can have just as big an effect on anal orgasms as it often does with other types – it may put you over the top when you’re close but not quite there. Just think of anal sex as “sex” and not “anal,” and knowing when to provide additional stimulation may come naturally.
7. Don’t get too rough; it’s uncommon, but anal tissues can tear
8. Always remember the most important rule: never go directly from anal contact to any other type of contact without fully washing the fingers, toys or penis carefully with soap and water. So-called double-dipping can easily cause nasty infections, STD transmission, and worse.
9. And always remember the second-most important rule: relax. Achieving an anal orgasm isn’t a challenge, or an achievement to check off a bucket list. It’s a fun and enjoyable way to enjoy sexual stimulation and contact – and most likely, the best orgasm you’ve ever had.